tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8573062537392028801.post2354787382377606693..comments2019-04-24T19:42:58.254-07:00Comments on Breaking the Tyrant's Rod: Narcissists Are Like CockroachesAdela Albahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00378821081049143169noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8573062537392028801.post-59612419597726335962012-09-21T18:14:38.346-07:002012-09-21T18:14:38.346-07:00Hahahaha. "Like"Hahahaha. "Like"Jonsihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17517677634712242866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8573062537392028801.post-76371257741828277552012-09-02T15:12:05.861-07:002012-09-02T15:12:05.861-07:00Ugh. Bridezillas. This is as a woman and twice wed...Ugh. Bridezillas. This is as a woman and twice wed -/ I don't get the whole "this is to be the most perfect day of my life" thing that seems to go hand & hand with weddings. That just sounds -- sad. <br /><br />Maybe part of it is my distaste with narcissists getting a "pass" to be as greedy as they've ever desired to be. Judithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16354890444410748967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8573062537392028801.post-17045038507455318642012-09-02T08:10:57.912-07:002012-09-02T08:10:57.912-07:00I have to take issue with your comment about narci...I have to take issue with your comment about narcissist being like cock roaches. If they were like cock roaches we could fumigate where they congregate and be done with them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8573062537392028801.post-57754279249717959962012-08-31T10:30:41.103-07:002012-08-31T10:30:41.103-07:00Excellent "plan!" And the first time you...Excellent "plan!" And the first time you call her out and she reverts to her unbridled N-self, you can extricate yourself from the "Bridesmaid Role" if you choose to do so and mentally cross that off the "To Do" list.<br />No doubt she has been jealous of you for years. Fixating on what others are eating/not eating tells me the "fixator" is projecting their own food stuff all over someone/everyone else. No matter how tactfully you point this out, here comes the N-rage/drama. The underlying stuff is all about control, but if they'd just keep it to themselves it would be far more tolerable for the rest of us.<br />Can't wait to hear her response-it's so predictable it's almost too easy and for that, I thank the Ns in my life for tuning my "N Detector" to the correct "frequency." ;) <br />TW Tundra Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12262066568878267648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8573062537392028801.post-76491670296641312202012-08-30T17:03:08.637-07:002012-08-30T17:03:08.637-07:00Thanks for all the advice, I really do mean it. I ...Thanks for all the advice, I really do mean it. I read it twice!<br /><br />Ironically, she has always thought I looked better than her and been jealous of my body, as I've always be the "skinny one" (when we were kids she wished I would get fat when I got old, but it hasn't happened yet). But she asked me to be a bridesmaid anyway, so I doubt she'll kick me out for that. She might decide to kick me out when she realizes I'm not going to keep my mouth shut next time bullshit comes out of hers in front of me. She's become especially fond of criticizing people for what they eat and for not being able to do things she can do (like stupidly fast one day each week). I'm curious to see how she handles the first time I call her out on something...<br /><br />And I have an excellent seamstress who can definitely re-purpose a bridesmaid dress into something more stylish! ;)Adela Albahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00378821081049143169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8573062537392028801.post-70890123327812847042012-08-30T16:38:47.718-07:002012-08-30T16:38:47.718-07:00Nooo, noooo, nooooo!!
Mon Dieu, It's NOT TOO L...Nooo, noooo, nooooo!!<br />Mon Dieu, It's NOT TOO LATE to back out! Tell her you can't afford it-your student loans/house payment/furnace-something, ANYTHING-blew up. I am absolutely serious, AA Oh, Little One, Please don't do this to yourself! She's depending on your very best human qualities so she can leave her dirty foot-prints all OVER your prone body, I kid you not.<br />Oh my. This is not good at all. No how, no way. I don't care how kind, considerate, understanding, educated you are, this is just a screamin' disaster in the making. <br />You can always attend, but "attend to" as in bridesmaid? Are you really willing to devote a year of your life to the "Wedding-of-the-Year?" The drama? The screaming? The "never-good-enoughs" that are destined to unfold like a slow-action multi-car train wreck? Those are absolutely rhetorical questions....sort of...<br />You're just on to the stuff and here it is, right back in your face in possibly the most odious manifestation of Narc-issm to ever crash into an otherwise decent life.<br />Your "friends" are NOT your "clients." And if they ARE, it's time to do some heavy duty introspection and more importantly, ACTION. And shame on me for giving advice when you didn't ask for it, so I'll just take my old lady self home and, and....worry. Yeah, that's what I'll do. It never worked before, but at least I can feel like I'm doin' something even if it is non-productive. There, that's it-I'll worry for both of us, because you won't have time to because she'll be runnin' your little butt off/talking your ear off/pouting/screaming/crying/PMSing/un-engaging/re-engaging/hiring/firing/changing/re-arranging things so quickly you won't have time.<br />And if indeed this Wedding DOES go off? You'll be kicked out just before if you look better than her (you will) or if she finds a "new" BFF "just your size" and you'll be stuck with a pricy, ugly dress you'll never wear again unless you can sell it to the NEXT unwitting "BFF."<br />Please don't feel you have to post this. You don't. But please start listening to your gut. It's screaming, "Hey! You? Yeah, it's Me. Don't do this. Get out now." ;)<br />TWTundra Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12262066568878267648noreply@blogger.com